Anchor to #

What is PSHE?

Personal, Social and Health Education (PSHE) is an important part of the curriculum. Within these lessons pupils will cover topics on Health and Wellbeing, Careers, Relationships, Living in the Wider World and Celebrating Differences. A team of trained staff deliver these lessons every week and are often supported by visiting speakers. You can find out more within our PSHE Overview here.

What is RSE?

Relationship and sex education (RSE) is the process of lifelong learning about physical, moral and emotional development. It is about the importance of family life, stable and loving relationships, respect, love and care. It is about the teaching of sex, sexuality and sexual health. You can find out more in our RSE Guide for Parents.

What does RSE mean to Lincoln Minster School?

Our RSE provision will give students the information they need to help them develop healthy, nurturing relationships of all kinds, not just intimate ones. It will enable them to know what a healthy relationship looks like and what makes a good friend.

It will teach what is acceptable and unacceptable behaviour in a relationship, including how to construct an intimate relationship positively. It will teach students to understand human sexuality and to respect themselves and others.

As a school we believe that knowledge about safer sex and sexual health is important to ensure that young people are equipped to make safe, informed and healthy choices as they progress through their adult life.

This should be delivered in a non-judgemental, factual way to allow scope for students to ask questions in a safe environment.

How is it delivered?

The RSE curriculum is delivered through a combination of our timetabled PSHE lessons and within form times. There are also opportunities for our students to receive lessons from external specialists in the form of drop down days. A list of topics covered, split by year group, can be found here.

Charlotte Brigden

Deputy Head: Pastoral & Head of Boarding

Charlotte is Deputy Head Pastoral and Designated Safeguarding Lead. Read her full bio, below.

01522551300

Read Bio

Charlotte Brigden

Charlotte is Deputy Head Pastoral and Designated Safeguarding Lead. She joined LMS in September 2023 from Haileybury College in Hertfordshire. Charlotte is passionate about all things pastoral, in particular boarding. She holds an MA in Education from the University of Exeter and is currently studying for a Doctorate of Education at Nottingham University. Charlotte works with the Heads of Key Stage and Tutors to support the pastoral development of all students at LMS. Alongside all things pastoral Charlotte also teaches Geography, coaches sailing and helps with the running of the Duke of Edinburgh Award.

Year 7

Delivered by the Head of PD as part of the timetable (1 hour)

PSHE focussed challenges in Monday P7 deliver by the form tutor

Year 8

Delivered by the Head of PD as part of the timetable (1 hour)

PSHE focussed challenges in Monday P7 deliver by the form tutor

Year 9

Delivered by the Head of PD as part of the timetable (1 hour)

PSHE focussed challenges in Monday P7 deliver by the form tutor

Year 10

Delivered by the Head of PD and trained teachers as part of the timetable (1 hour)

Year 11

Delivered by the Head of PD and trained teachers as part of the timetable (1 hour)

Year 12/13

Careers delivered by the Head of Careers – Monday P7 (30 minutes)

RSE delivered by form tutors – Thursday P7 (30 minutes)

Anchor to #

Why parents are so important?

Parents are a very important influence on their child’s decisions about relationships and sex. When parents communicate frequently and openly, teenage children feel closer to them and are more able to discuss what matters to them.

By regularly talking about RSE topics at home you will help to take away some of the stigma by making it part of the everyday. You will also help your child understand the differences between what they may see online versus what they experience in real life.

All parents and/or guardians of Senior pupils were invited to a Parent Consultation Evening. The recording from the evening can be viewed here.

Our Top Tips on How to Talk to Your Teen About Relationships and Sex:

1. Start Early and Often

Start Early and Often

Being open to discussing relationships and sex early in your teen’s life will help them feel more comfortable talking to you and asking questions when they’re older. Having regular conversations also sends the message that these topics are important enough to talk about regularly and are a normal part of life.

2. Listen Without Interrupting

Listen Without Interrupting

Listening to your teen is key in helping them become comfortable with talking and opening up to you. Encourage them to talk by asking lots of questions. If they start the conversation with a question, get them to share with you what they already know about the topic before giving them an answer. This will help you assess their scope of understanding and give you chance to find out more about what they know before you share your knowledge.

3. It’s Okay to Feel Embarrassed or Awkward

It’s Okay to Feel Embarrassed or Awkward

Everyone’s comfort level is different when it comes to discussing relationships and sex. Try not to let embarrassment or awkwardness discourage you or your teen from having these conversations. It is likely that your teen will be very grateful to you for taking the initiative to talk about it and let them ask questions – so long as you don’t make it about them!

4. Try to be Positive Without Judgement

Try to be Positive Without Judgement

You want your child to be able to talk to you about anything so it’s important that you do not invalidate them, their feelings and their experiences but approach the conversation ready to listen. Try not to say anything that might close down the channels of conversation now or in the future and try not to focus only on the dangers and negative consequences of relationships and sex; it's important you recognise all the positive aspects and feelings too.

5. Don’t Make Assumptions

Don’t Make Assumptions

Don’t assume that just because your teen has asked you a question about relationships or sex, that they’re actually in one or actively participating. Plenty of teens may ask questions about these topics because they are curious or they’ve come across something online or through a friend. If your teen asks you a question, provide them with an answer, if you don’t have one, be truthful. This helps create trust between you and them and will make it easier for them to turn to you for help when they’re older.

6. Use Prompts to get the Conversation Started

Use Prompts to get the Conversation Started

If you’re struggling to get the conversation started, television shows, movies, websites, books and magazines can be a springboard for educating them about relationships or sex without the difficulty of initiating a conversation that seems targeted specifically at them. For example, if dating, LGBTQIA+ issues, love or sex come up on a TV show or in a movie that you are watching together, it can prompt a discussion. Questions like, ‘what would you do if someone you were dating acted like that character in this TV show’ can help trigger useful conversations where you learn how they feel without making it about them.

7. Make it About Values

Make it About Values

There are a lot of places your teen can go to find out about relationships and sex – school, books, internet and friends. What’s important is that you help your teen learn positive and healthy values around these topics – such as how to treat others kindly and respectfully. Without this guidance, young people can learn from sources with unrealistic depictions of relationships and sex.

8. Don’t Always Make it About Them

Don’t Always Make it About Them

Your teen might fight it easier to talk about relationships and sex when it’s in the third person. Stories about friends, family members or examples you come across on the TV or in the news are all good ways to get your teen speaking. Questions such as ‘what do you think that person should have done?’, ‘what could they have done differently?’ and ‘what pressures might they have felt?’ can help get your teen talking freely about potentially difficult topics. This is because it shifts the focus from your teen to imaginary characters, making it much easier for them to express opinions without feeling it’s personal and about them.

9. It’s Okay Not to Have All the Answers

It’s Okay Not to Have all the Answers

It’s ok to tell your teen that you don’t know the answer to something. Either tell them that you’ll get back to them after you’ve done a bit of research or use it as an opportunity to do the research together.

Pastoral Care

"Lincoln Minster School is both caring and considerate. With amazing pastoral care and an incredible teaching team, I always feel included as a parent."

- Parent

Pastoral Care

Anti-Bullying

At Lincoln Minster School, we aim to create a culture of respect, trust and support. We know bullying has a serious effect on its victims and understand that this is unacceptable. We know that each of us must stand up to it and not allow any member of our school community to feel upset, alone or to feel that they have no value.

Click the image to see our Anti-Bullying Charter.

Anti-Bullying Policy

Anchor to #

What is Self Esteem and Self Worth?

This video describes the concepts of self esteem and self worth, highlighting the differences between them.

Video by Cre8tive Resources.

Equality and Diversity - 9 Protected Characteristics

This video explains the 9 protected characteristics.

Video by Cre8tive Resources.

Anchor to #

Careers Days

Date TBD – Year 11 collapse morning

Date TBD – Year 11 mock interview day. Each student will have a 20-minute slot for their mock employer interview, so the rest of the day will be business as usual and they should only miss limited lesson time.

Date TBD – P1 & 2 – Year 10 Work Experience briefing

Date TBD – Year 10 work experience week

Date TBD – Year 11 collapse morning

Date TBD – Year 11 University trip – full day

Date TBD – Year 10 collapse morning

Date TBD – Year 10 collapse day

Date TBD – Year 8 collapse day

Anchor to #

Meet the Team

All PSHE and RSE activities at Lincoln Minster School are managed by our Head of Personal Development, Mr Sam Palmer. Additionally, pupils are supported by Ms Paola Sagastuy, Assistant Head: Pastoral, Form Tutors and dedicated Heads of Year. The following is a list of relevant key members of staff (a full staff list can be found here).

Ms Charlotte Brigden

Deputy Head: Pastoral and Head of Boarding

Mr Sam Palmer

Teacher of Music and Head of Personal Development

Miss Rebecca Wills

Head of Careers

PSHE & RSE

What is PSHE?

What is RSE?

What does RSE mean to Lincoln Minster School?

How is it delivered?

Charlotte Brigden

Charlotte Brigden

Why parents are so important?

Our Top Tips on How to Talk to Your Teen About Relationships and Sex:

1. Start Early and Often

Start Early and Often

2. Listen Without Interrupting

Listen Without Interrupting

3. It’s Okay to Feel Embarrassed or Awkward

It’s Okay to Feel Embarrassed or Awkward

4. Try to be Positive Without Judgement

Try to be Positive Without Judgement

5. Don’t Make Assumptions

Don’t Make Assumptions

6. Use Prompts to get the Conversation Started

Use Prompts to get the Conversation Started

7. Make it About Values

Make it About Values

8. Don’t Always Make it About Them

Don’t Always Make it About Them

9. It’s Okay Not to Have All the Answers

It’s Okay Not to Have all the Answers

Pastoral Care

"Lincoln Minster School is both caring and considerate. With amazing pastoral care and an incredible teaching team, I always feel included as a parent."

- Parent

Anti-Bullying

What is Self Esteem and Self Worth?

Equality and Diversity - 9 Protected Characteristics

Careers Days

Meet the Team

Ms Charlotte Brigden

Ms Charlotte Brigden

Mr Sam Palmer

Mr Sam Palmer

Miss Rebecca Wills

Miss Rebecca Wills

Senior

PSHE and RSE Policies

Information for Parents

Lesson Examples

We work with...

Information for Parents

Senior School & Sixth Form

Preparatory School